Descoperirea vocationala vazuta intr-o sesiune de coaching cu un adolescent. Povestea unei colaborari reusite.
Cred cu tarie in chimia dintre oameni! In coaching lucrez cu intentia comunicarii de la suflet la suflet. Nu din minte sau ego. Este secretul unei interactiuni reusite pentru mine.
Intr-o zi la birou ma suna o clienta. „Mihaela, sora unei bune prietene are nevoie de ajutor…si ma gandesc ca tu esti persoana cea mai potrivita. Are 20 de ani, a renuntat la faculatatea de Drept, nu ii placea si e debusolata acum. Nu se mai intelege cu familia, nu stie ce sa faca, ce facultate sa urmeze mai departe? ”
La cateva zile dupa, vine adolescenta, Cristina, la consiliere.
Abia trezita din somn…isi freaca ochii cu mainile si era ingrijorata daca se murdareste… nu mai stie daca s-a machiat sau nu. Isi cere scuze ca s-a trezit cam tarziu si a venit la intalnire in graba.
Ce te preocupa? o intreb.
Cristina: Pai…vreau sa ma inscriu la facultatea de sociologie, la Resurse Umane, dar sunt pasionata de arta, Mai exact imi place sa desenez portrete, sa fac animatie. Acum fac si portrete realiste ca sa ma perfectionez pe animatie apoi si sa inteleg mai bine. Am renuntat la facultatea de drept dupa 1 an si jumatate. Nu am rabdare, am o problema cu rabdarea. Scuzati-ma, sunt cam ravasita, nu stiu daca sunt coerenta acum.
Eu: E ok, stai linistita, te inteleg perfect.
Unde te grabesti?
Cristina: rade…nicaieri.
Eu: Si de ce vrei sa te inscrii la sociologie?
Cristina : Artistii mor de foame! aud mereu acasa. Si mi-e frica sa fac ce vreau. Mi-e frica de esec.
Eu: Si ce inseamna esecul pentru tine?
Cristina: De exemplu sa ma bufneasca rasul atunci cand prezint ceva, sa am emotii, sa nu rada colegii de mine, desi imi sunt prieteni, ma inteleg bine cu ei, sau sa iau nota 8 la scoala. Si faptul ca am renuntat la facultate mi se pare un esec. (*si simt ca nu erau gandurile ei)
Cumnatul meu glumeste mereu si spune: la facultate sau la carat porumb?!
Si incepe sa rada si se foieste pe scaun…o neliniste afiseaza in comportament…
Eu: Interesant…te felicit, mie mi se pare ca esti foarte curajoasa ca ai renuntat la facultate, nicidecum un esec. Nu oricine are acest curaj. Noi, oamenii percepem diferit lucrurile.
Si au urmat alte intrebari si raspunsuri…
La un moment dat spune…si imi place stabilitatea, dar nu monotonia.
Si imi place sa fac glume, sa rad, actoria.
Si, deodata toata fata i s-a luminat, parul si l-a dat pe spate sa faca loc chipului cel nou si luminos sa se vada si radea cumva inconstient.
Aha…iti place sa desenezi si actoria, deci?
Cristina: Da, dar artistii mor de foame, asta spune lumea si mi-e frica ca ma judeca cei din jur si din nou, sa nu esuez. Dar, uite imi vine sa spun acum una din putul gandirii mele…daca merg la actorie, pot sa fiu cine vreau eu, sa joc orice rol, chiar si un supererou. Nu-mi vine sa cred ca spun asta, de mult o gandeam si nu am avut curajul sa o spun nimanui pana acum.
Wooow si reactia ei si a mea…magie curata!
Sunt atatea de spus dupa o astfel de sesiune si obisnuiesc sa scriu cand un caz ma impacteaza. Asa a rezultat si acest studiu de caz. Traiesc in energia lui „a face ceva pentru acesti tineri si pentru noi, oameni adulti in sensul asta.”
In contextul cazului prezentat si nu numai, te invit sa iti raspunzi la aceasta intrebare: Ce ai vrea sa nu regreti la batranete?!
Eeei bine si apropos de frica de esec…
Ce sanse de esec crezi ca are Cristina facand ce ii place si se pricepe? Si ce sanse de esec are sa faca ceva ce nu ii place si nici abilitati pentru? Si, oare, ce viata ar duce in fiecare din variante? Ce fel de relatii ar avea cu cei din jur? Cum ar fi sanatatea ei, starea de zi cu zi, etc….
Banii, o problema…si spun da, cu toata convingerea… o provocare mare … dar, daca nu astazi in mediul tuturor posibilitatilor poti sa creezi si sa gasesti solutii, sa imbini ce vrei, cum vrei….atunci cand?…perceptia mea din nou. E despre ALEGERI, ideal ar fi calculate, sanatoase pe cat posibil si asumate. Ce valori sunt mai importante pentru tine oare? E despre PERSEVERENTA si DISCIPLINA! Stim ca multi oameni renunta chiar cand ar fi putut sa aiba succes, sa mearga un business, o idee, un proiect, sa se acomodeze intr-un loc, mediu nou.
Aaa si pana si faptul ca are 20 de ani Cristina il vedea un dezavantaj prin prisma faptului ca nu stie ce vrea, nu are experienta… Iata cat valoreaza oamenii si un mediu care sa te sustina, educatia…
Cu iubire,
Mihaela A.
Thank you for your sharing. I am worried that I lack creative ideas. It is your article that makes me full of hope. Thank you. But, I have a question, can you help me?
buy medicines online in india http://indiaph24.store/# online pharmacy india
best online pharmacy india
reputable indian pharmacies indian pharmacy top online pharmacy india
mexican online pharmacies prescription drugs: cheapest mexico drugs – medication from mexico pharmacy
ciprofloxacin generic ciprofloxacin generic cipro for sale
https://cytotec.club/# Misoprostol 200 mg buy online
lisinopril 20 mg tabs: lisinopril 40 mg no prescription – lisinopril 20g
nolvadex 10mg tamoxifen bone pain what happens when you stop taking tamoxifen
https://cytotec.club/# buy cytotec online fast delivery
cytotec pills online: buy cytotec – buy cytotec over the counter
http://lisinopril.network/# where to buy lisinopril
cipro online no prescription in the usa antibiotics cipro buy ciprofloxacin over the counter
http://nolvadex.life/# tamoxifen for sale
cytotec pills buy online buy cytotec in usa Misoprostol 200 mg buy online
cost cheap propecia without a prescription: buying generic propecia no prescription – get generic propecia without rx
https://nolvadex.life/# tamoxifen endometriosis
buy generic propecia prices cost of cheap propecia tablets buying cheap propecia
http://cytotec.club/# buy cytotec online fast delivery
antibiotics cipro: buy ciprofloxacin over the counter – buy cipro online without prescription
buy cytotec over the counter buy cytotec over the counter buy cytotec online fast delivery
http://ciprofloxacin.tech/# ciprofloxacin order online
Abortion pills online: order cytotec online – buy cytotec
ciprofloxacin buy generic ciprofloxacin ciprofloxacin mail online
https://cytotec.club/# cytotec abortion pill
cytotec pills online: buy cytotec over the counter – cytotec online
https://ciprofloxacin.tech/# ciprofloxacin over the counter
how does tamoxifen work tamoxifen and bone density tamoxifen side effects forum
https://cytotec.club/# buy cytotec
generic propecia without a prescription: cheap propecia for sale – buying generic propecia no prescription
Cytotec 200mcg price Cytotec 200mcg price Misoprostol 200 mg buy online
http://finasteride.store/# buy cheap propecia pills
buy cipro online canada cipro cipro
tamoxifen cyp2d6: tamoxifen and antidepressants – tamoxifen bone density
http://cytotec.club/# Cytotec 200mcg price
http://nolvadex.life/# tamoxifen medication
zestril no prescription prinivil 20mg tabs buy lisinopril 20 mg online canada
tamoxifen breast cancer prevention: tamoxifen – does tamoxifen cause menopause
https://ciprofloxacin.tech/# buy cipro online without prescription
home buying propecia pill get generic propecia pill
zestril 10 mg price: cost for generic lisinopril – lisinopril 10 mg prices
buy cipro online without prescription purchase cipro buy cipro online without prescription
http://nolvadex.life/# tamoxifen hot flashes
https://cytotec.club/# cytotec pills buy online
viagra canada Cheap Sildenafil 100mg buy Viagra over the counter
http://levitrav.store/# Levitra 10 mg buy online
Cialis without a doctor prescription: Cheap Cialis – Buy Cialis online
Kamagra 100mg price buy kamagra online usa Kamagra 100mg
Cheap Cialis: Cialis over the counter – buy cialis pill
http://cialist.pro/# Buy Tadalafil 10mg
http://cialist.pro/# Tadalafil price
super kamagra: buy kamagra online – Kamagra 100mg price
buy Kamagra kamagra super kamagra
http://kamagra.win/# Kamagra 100mg
cenforce for sale: Cenforce 150 mg online – Buy Cenforce 100mg Online
п»їkamagra kamagra.win buy Kamagra
http://cenforce.pro/# cenforce for sale
Buy Cialis online: Generic Tadalafil 20mg price – Cialis 20mg price
п»їLevitra price Levitra generic price Vardenafil online prescription
Levitra 10 mg buy online: Levitra generic price – Cheap Levitra online
https://viagras.online/# best price for viagra 100mg
https://cenforce.pro/# cheapest cenforce
buy Viagra online viagras.online Cheap generic Viagra online
http://viagras.online/# sildenafil 50 mg price
buy drugs without prescription canadian prescription drugstore review canada prescription
https://pharmmexico.online/# mexican pharmacy
india pharmacy mail order: indian pharmacies safe – reputable indian pharmacies
mexican pharmacy buying from online mexican pharmacy reputable mexican pharmacies online
canada pharmacy online: northern pharmacy canada – pharmacy com canada
http://pharmmexico.online/# medication from mexico pharmacy
indian pharmacy online: online pharmacy india – top online pharmacy india
how to get a prescription in canada canada online prescription meds no prescription
http://pharmcanada.shop/# canadian pharmacy 1 internet online drugstore
buying prescription drugs in mexico: buying from online mexican pharmacy – pharmacies in mexico that ship to usa
mexican pharmaceuticals online: mexican pharmaceuticals online – medicine in mexico pharmacies
reputable online pharmacy no prescription pharm world legal online pharmacy coupon code
online pharmacy discount code: online pharmacy – international pharmacy no prescription
https://pharmcanada.shop/# buy prescription drugs from canada cheap
canadian pharmacy without prescription: cheapest prescription pharmacy – canadian pharmacies not requiring prescription
northwest canadian pharmacy canadian pharmacy near me legit canadian pharmacy
http://pharmindia.online/# indian pharmacy
meds online no prescription: buy medications without prescriptions – buying prescription drugs online from canada
buy prescription drugs from india online pharmacy india india pharmacy mail order
https://doxycyclinea.online/# doxycycline tetracycline
amoxicillin 500mg capsules price: amoxicillin 500mg tablets price in india – how to get amoxicillin over the counter
where to buy prednisone in australia can i buy prednisone over the counter in usa 10 mg prednisone tablets
can you buy amoxicillin over the counter in canada: can you purchase amoxicillin online – amoxicillin for sale online
https://amoxila.pro/# amoxicillin without rx
prednisone 60 mg prednisone sale prednisone 20 mg tablet
doxycycline medication: doxycycline 100mg online – doxycycline generic
doxycycline 200 mg: doxycycline – buy doxycycline without prescription uk
50 mg prednisone tablet: prednisone 2.5 tablet – prednisone 60 mg daily
neurontin uk: drug neurontin 200 mg – neurontin 100mg tablets
zithromax 250: where can i buy zithromax capsules – zithromax 500 mg lowest price drugstore online
prednisone 5 mg tablet price: order prednisone with mastercard debit – can you buy prednisone in canada
http://gabapentinneurontin.pro/# order neurontin
buy prednisone online fast shipping cheap prednisone 20 mg buy prednisone from canada
50mg prednisone tablet: 10 mg prednisone – drug prices prednisone
http://zithromaxa.store/# zithromax generic cost
amoxicillin generic amoxicillin 500 mg tablets buy amoxil